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I’m Against Abortion, but… – A response to the nonsensical excuse given by many

I wrote this in 2009 and am rereleasing it as I have heard this too many times this year.

I’m against abortion, but…

I think the statement that bugs me most when talking to people about abortion is, “I’m against abortion, but…” I can actually respect someone’s total pro-abortion position more than someone who tells me, “I’m against abortion, but…” It just makes no sense to me at all; how can they be against something as vile and deadly as abortion and have a “but”?

My first response to them is always to ask them first why they are against abortion. What is it about abortion that would make you start your statement with “I’m against abortion”?

It amazes me when they start telling me how killing a baby is so wrong, life is so precious and we should respect it, and babies are innocent and don’t deserve to die. It would seem they have a firm grasp on the pro-life perspective, but. There it is, that little three-letter word that destroys the very foundation of what they just explained to me.

I am boggled at how in one breath you can call killing a baby murder and in the next breath you can justify this murder because you don’t want to tell others what to do. I cannot fathom how someone can say that life is precious and should be protected then turn around and support “the choice” to destroy that very life.

I have said this in past commentaries and I will say it again; this is why people can add the word “but” into a sentence about being against abortion. The problem is we are allowing abortion to fall into a different category than every other act of homicide. But abortion is not a different act; it is a different method of the act of homicide. It is still one person killing another person. Therefore, if we would feel compelled to take action to stop acts of homicide such as those in Darfur, the Congo or anywhere else, shouldn’t we also take action to stop the acts of homicide that take place in abortion clinics?

So many are refusing to take action because they have been able to infuse the word “but” in order to free themselves of the responsibility of standing against evil. As long as that they can insert that word, they can deflect or hide from the truth that is staring them in the face: innocent little babies are being destroyed.

Let’s play a game I like to call “ridiculous analogies”. In this game, I switch the word abortion for some other grave evil and see if you can justify a way to insert the word “but” into the sentence.

1. I am against child molestation, but…

2. I am against what happened to the Jews during the Nazi Holocaust, but…

3. I am against men beating their wives, but….

4. I am against slavery, but…

5. I am against rape, but…

Can you think of any situations where you can use the word “but” to justify any of these evil, deplorable actions? How about this:

A. I am against slavery, but who am I to tell someone else they can’t own slaves?

B. I am against rape but who am I to take away a man’s right to choose?

I hope you find these last two sentences make you cringe with disgust. That is the same way I feel when I hear someone say, “I am against abortion, but…”

Abortion is the act of destroying the life of an innocent human being and there is just no justification for committing this act of homicide. Just as justifying exceptions for these other horrifying acts is unthinkable, so should justifying the act of killing babies.

I truly believe that if the majority of people who claim to be against abortion (with a “but” or not) would start acting the same way we would if something like slavery was suddenly made legal again, we would see an end to the slaughter of the innocents.

When I visited Auschwitz-Birkenau, a concentration camp in Poland, I stood outside the gas chambers for some time. I had just gone through most of the camp and was emotionally wrecked, to say the least. As I stood outside this building, I was looking at houses in the distance and wondering what I would have done if I lived in those houses during the time of the Nazi Holocaust. Would I have stood up and taken action, or would I have found a way to insert the word “but” into any statement I made about the mass killing taking place in my back yard?

What I realized is that I do live in those houses; there is a mass killing taking place in my back yard. There in another holocaust taking place to which I must decide how I will respond. There is a holocaust taking place in all our back yards as almost 4,000 people are killed every day in our cities and towns.

I want you to all imagine what it would be like to have a house right next to a concentration camp in Poland during the Nazi Holocaust; would you have used the word “but”? Even more important, knowing that you do have a holocaust happening in your own back yard right now, how will you respond? Will you stand up, or will you find a way to say “but…?”


  1. Posted February 24, 2012 at 3:32 pm | Permalink

    Wow. Tremendous and simple explanation that so many people don’t understand. Keep fighting the fight, and we’ll always be here to back you up!

  2. KHazelrigg
    Posted February 24, 2012 at 6:30 pm | Permalink

    Excellent commentary.

  3. Kevin Williams
    Posted February 24, 2012 at 9:10 pm | Permalink

    Good word Bryan!
    It is so awesome how the Holy Spirit will emphasize something to you and then confirm it through another independent source. (A very strong evidence that there IS a Holy Spirit and that He is at work 🙂 because just today I was taking a break from being at the hood and started reading from the book I always give away at PP “Why Pro life” by Randy Alcorn. I read and reread and then read again his chapter about this very topic you blogged about today. The chapter title is “Personally Opposed to Abortion BUT Pro Choice” The first paragraph says: “Many people say, “Im not pro abortion, BUT Im Pro Choice” But how would you respond to someone who said, “Im not pro rape, Im just pro choice about rape.”? Youd realize his position implies that rape doesnt really hurt anyone, and that its sometimes justifiable. Youd say, “To be pro-choice about rape IS be pro- rape!

  4. Lauri
    Posted February 24, 2012 at 11:57 pm | Permalink

    Just read your “I’m against abortion,but”. Love it! You are on fire with The Truth! Will send it to everyone! God bless you!

  5. Posted February 25, 2012 at 10:44 am | Permalink

    As someone who used to say that, let me tell you: Your essay is only for the converted. You are going about it the wrong way. Many people say that because they want to be kind to other people. Oh, I know you are jumping up and down saying, “How can you be kind while you are KILLING?” But they DO think that. You won’t reach people who say this by attacking their logic, because they don’t have any. They are doing what our culture tells them to and going with their hearts, which make this utilitarian calculation: Desperate, crying woman vs. some kind of person who is invisible and very, very small.

    You have to show them that they are not, in fact, being kind. That the kindness and compassion they want to show are misplaced. They won’t and can’t make the leap to really being pro-life because it would require them to be “unkind” to pregnant women, whom they invariably imagine as desperate. And you know what? Some of them ARE desperate. You have to get across that it never helps even the most desperate woman to kill her own child, and that you can’t help an “unwanted” baby by killing it. This realization is uncomfortable, and perhaps even agonizing, for someone who has been “prolife, but…” It requires them to realize that their “kindness” has perhaps sentenced people to death. THAT’S why its hard. And until you address that, you won’ have much luck with the logic. I think that’s why 40 Days for Life has been so successful. It gives people who think of the prolife movement as a bunch of angry crazy people (again, voice of experience here!) an alternative that really is loving and kind.

    • Posted February 25, 2012 at 11:01 am | Permalink


      I appreciate your response but I have to disagree. I have been doing this work for over 20 years full time and have seen a lot of success. I appreciate 40 days for life, I speak for them every campaign and support them 100%. They reach people, we reach people and many other pro-life campaigns reach people. This article is just one way I reach people. The fact is it takes a lot of approaches and we should encourage rather then tear down each other when we are on the same team.


  6. Amanda Huffer
    Posted February 25, 2012 at 11:47 am | Permalink

    Awesome! Will share this! Thanks for standing and voicing for all of us against abortion! God bless!

  7. Posted February 25, 2012 at 12:01 pm | Permalink

    It is a good article. Gail has a point but, really you are more on target Bryan. I had a Crisis Pregnancy Counseling Hotline and often people would say that but, they didn’t want their friend, daughter, whatever to be made at them if they refused to go with them ie to “be there” for them. I told them that being their meant telling them what they needed to hear NOW. If they didn’t that person would hold it against them after the abortion because they appeared to condone and encourage them. I told one Mom to refuse to take her daughter into Chicago to have an abortion and tell her how much she felt it was wrong. (< Guess what? When I checked back, the daughter did not go get an abortion after he mother followed my advice. What do you think would have happened if her Mom had let fear of making her daughter mad at her rule?

  8. Natalia
    Posted February 28, 2012 at 6:09 pm | Permalink


    Thank you for inspiration! I want to defend life as effectively as I can. In my country, Poland, we don’t have so many abortions because of our law (it’s called “compromise law”): abortion is legal only in the case of rape, when the fetus has an serious ill (but in practice babies with down syndrome has been killing too) or when the life of pregnant women is in danger. About 500 babies are killed annually in Poland, but it’s many abortions illegal – because of “medicines” bought through the Internet from other countries.

    Many people pro-choice in Poland are totally closed to discussion, they don’t even want to hear any arguments. If I want to start a discussion on pro-choice page on facebook, I’m bloked immediately and my pro-life post is canceled. They’re often rude and agressive. They seem to be totally convinced that they are right, but this closing to any discussion shows that maybe they’re not so. Maybe it’s a fear that they don’t have good, meritorical arguments and we have plenty.

    Feminists are saying that it’s a shame we are so underdeveloped because of our restrictive law and we shoud be modern-thinking like the USA and Europe.

    Thank you for giving me so many good arguments in discussions. There are many people who say “I’m against, but…” in Poland.

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