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Plan B, the Gloria Steinem Conference Room, and Making Pro-Life Decisions After Rape

A lot of blog posts are about cultural or news events.  A great many are about family life, education, and home improvement or craft projects.  Some are about saving money.  Many are about abstract theological points, or one’s understanding of Scripture.
This one  is not about any of these.  This is about the intensely personal moment that being pro-life, and making an honest-to-God pro-life decision, reached and out grabbed me by the heart and clutched hard.

My Dark-Haired Daughter, who suffers from bipolar disorder and limited cognitive abilities, went missing last Monday.  For more than 48 hours, we had no idea where she was.  Without all the gruesome details, after she was found, it came to light that she’d been brutally and repeatedly sexually assaulted.  She’d been taken to the local women’s shelter, where (at least in our area) they do the exams in such cases.

After the police called me to tell me she’d been found, the officer asked me to meet him at the clinic and be reunited with my daughter. When I arrived, I was led to the Gloria Steinem Conference Room.  I’m not kidding;  that alone almost made me pass out.

In this softly lit room, with plush furniture and antique reproduction prints of ladies in hoop skirts on the wall, the counselor and the police detective filled me in on what had occurred with my daughter.  I wasn’t allowed to see her yet;  the nurse was still completing the exam.

I sat and waited with the officer, in this softly lit room, with old magazine and the smell of flop sweat, hoop-skirted ladies looking on.  

Finally, the nurse came out.  She briefly and clinically told me of the injuries my daughter had, what the nurse had done to collect evidence, and that my daughter was so severely injured, the nurse thought the best course of action was to go to the emergency room so my daughter – my lovely, incredible, sweet, mentally ill daughter – could get further medical attention.

The nurse told me the antibiotics she’d administered, that we’d need to wait some time for HIV testing, and then handed me a box – Plan B, and told me we had 24 hours to use it.

So there it was.  The whole moral conundrum of abortion in a little green box in my hand.

I am wholly sure I am capable of murder.  I know it to the very core of my being.  If the being that had done this to my daughter had been in front of me at that moment, I likely would have killed the bastard.  

But Plan B is a whole other thing, isn’t it?  It’s about taking the life of an innocent child.

Don’t think I didn’t think about it.  Don’t think that I didn’t want to grab a cup of cool water, hold it to my precious daughter’s lips and say, “Here; take this.”  Don’t think I didn’t want to never even think of the possibility that pregnancy would result (and still may).  Don’t think I didn’t want to spare my daughter the burdens of dealing with a pregnancy from these circumstances.

But I shoved that green box in my bag.  It’s still there…unopened.

I know many, many people – some who call me friend – will think this is a monstrous decision.  I should have just had her swallow the pill and never looked back. There – done.  One less thing to worry about.

My daughter, though, you see, is adopted.  For all I know, she herself is the product of rape.  Her birth mom was known to prostitute herself, and for women in that life, rape is common.  

And even if this wasn’t the case, what child deserves to die due to a parent’s sins and brutality?  Taking an innocent life is wrong – I know it, and every genuinely honest person on the face of the earth knows it.

But I thought about it.  God help me, I thought about it.

Despite my desire to murder, despite my desire to never think about the possibility of pregnancy, despite the burden of this whole experience:  I am pro-life.

Gloria Steinem and her softly-lit room be damned.

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  1. Rhonda
    Posted February 13, 2012 at 1:21 pm | Permalink

    Clearly, it is easy to be pro-life until a situation like this confronts us face to face. I too, have conjured up horrifying senerios in my head about my own daughter, granddaughter…what if? But, for the grace of God, my family has been spared this type of trama.
    Prior to Roe v. Wade our society would have deemed it unthinkable to commit murder on the unborn due to the circumstances of their conception. I am not so naive as to think that abortion by in-hospital staff, particulary on the mentally challenged was not an option before Roe and in fact, was more than likely encouraged. Now, however, murder is as easy as popping a pill.
    Bravo for your brave stance. I can only imagine your angst. But, your story will be used as a testimony that inspires all pro-life warriors because we, too, may find ourselves at some point confronting an evil of this nature. Yours is an example that God will uphold us, comfort us and enable us to do all things through Christ. Thank you for your witness.

  2. Posted February 13, 2012 at 3:08 pm | Permalink

    Good post. Thank you.

  3. Heather
    Posted February 16, 2012 at 12:36 pm | Permalink

    Plan B IS NOT AN ABORTION PILLL! I just read that article and that Mother is very irresponsible! Plan B is a pill only to disrupt the lining of the uterus so that an egg may not live in the environment. I have worked with people that have bi-polar as a mental illness (I am not saying they can not be parents as many are) but to add a possible pregnancy to a woman who unless on medication has a very unstable life filled with mania and manic depressive episodes that cycle very low and very high with an added preganacy caused by such violence will only add to her sad trauma of being a rape victim. I as a mother would not wish that on any daughter reguardless of my religon. Sadly many of the drugs that stabilize mental illness also causes birth defects which is another added issue to a woman who lives day in and day out with mental illness (mental illness is not cured it will NEVER go away, it can only be stabilized). Once again I am not saying metally ill indiviuals should not have children, I am saying why would a Mother take away that choice from her daughter. And shame on the nurse for not giving the medicine to the PATIENT—the TRUE VICTIM!

    • Posted February 16, 2012 at 12:42 pm | Permalink

      Heather you said “Plan B IS NOT AN ABORTION PILLL! I just read that article and that Mother is very irresponsible! Plan B is a pill only to disrupt the lining of the uterus so that an egg may not live in the environment”

      The problem with this statement is that you are proving that it is indeed an abortion pill. You see it is not an egg that attaches to the uterus, but a Zygote, a forming human. Fertilization happens about 8-9 days before this.

  4. Heather
    Posted February 16, 2012 at 1:09 pm | Permalink

    No not true Bryan. I only wish you would make true statements. If all rape victims were given Plan B immeadiately than there would never be another abortion because of rape or incest. Wouldn’t that bring you happiness? The problem is rape and incest is very under reported and sadly many people are “Judged” for their past sexual history. One in Five woman are raped in this country…..Maybe instead of being on the abortion bandwagon you could help MEN be better MEN!

    I will not be ridiculous and ask if you eat eggs for breakfast…but we are taking about the same thing. Just because abortion is not right for you or me does not mean I want a woman to remember back to the conception of her child as being held by gunpoint, begging for her life, beaten to submission, praying she will survive and the rapist does not return again. Yes, I have been raped and thankfully I was on birth control so there was NEVER a chance of becoming pregnant. And Yes, my Mother carried a child to term after being raped and she was NEVER the same woman again!

    How Does Plan B or Plan B One-Step Work?

    Depending upon where you are in your cycle, Plan B or Plan B One-Step may work in one of these ways:
    It may prevent or delay ovulation.
    It may interfere with fertilization of an egg.

    It is also possible that this type of emergency birth control prevents implantation of a fertilized egg in your uterus by altering its lining.

    Plan B or Plan B One-Step is not the same as RU-486, which is an abortion pill. It does not cause a miscarriage or abortion. In other words, it does not stop development of a fetus once the fertilized egg implants in your uterus. So it will not work if you are already pregnant when you take it.

  5. Posted February 16, 2012 at 1:11 pm | Permalink

    Again Heather it is not an egg, but a Zygote that implants in the Uterus. This is basic biology.

  6. Heather
    Posted February 16, 2012 at 1:18 pm | Permalink

    It is not a zygote that implants in the uterus is ovulation has been haulted. You ovulate 3-4 days out of the month other than that you can not get pregnant. Is preventing ovulation murder too?

    I am not looking to “hate” I am only looking to inform. I would have never found this site or gone looking for it. It was posted by my Mother’s friend who has no idea or her or my history and hopefully people will wake up and start protecting the youth of our future from ignorance.

    Preach to your youth not to RAPE or have UNPROTECTED sex. I once was the youth in a youth group who started a group againsrt abortion and then one day I realized THE CHURCH LIED!


  7. Heather
    Posted February 17, 2012 at 11:18 am | Permalink

    Please delete all my comments.

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