This is the generation that will abolish abortion

What do you think? Man puts up billboard exposing ex-girlfriends abortion.

This is an interesting question for me to answer.  My gut reaction is good for this man to stand up and speak out against the killing of his child.  If someone was allowed to kill his three year old no one have a problem with him doing this and exposing that.

The issue of privacy does not hold water with me because I do not believe that the killing of innocent children should be allowed in the first place therefore there is no precedent.  I think this man has a right to be angry about the destruction of his child’s life, this is his way of venting.

I am not sure this is what I would have done if I was in this situation, but I don’t think I can say this is wrong. My first reaction is to say that I support this.

What do you think?

Channel 7 in Albuquerque reports:

ALAMOGORDO, N.M. — A New Mexico man’s decision to lash out with a billboard ad saying his ex-girlfriend had an abortion against his wishes has touched off a court battle over free speech and privacy rights.

The story obviously went viral, published all over the internet on sites like http://www.go-binder.com/ you can see the sign on Alamogordo’s main thoroughfare shows the 35-year-old man holding the outline of an infant. The text reads, “This Would Have Been A Picture Of My 2-Month Old Baby If The Mother Has Decided To Not KILL Our Child!”

The man’s ex-girlfriend has taken him to court for harassment and violation of privacy. A domestic court official has recommended the billboard be removed.

But the man’s attorney argues the order violates his client’s free speech rights.

The woman’s friends say she had a miscarriage, not an abortion.

See a video of the billboard here: http://www.koat.com/news/28147192/detail.html#ixzz1ObV1wo3K

Tell us what you think?

26 Comments

  1. Posted June 7, 2011 at 10:56 am | Permalink

    The father should know the truth about his child’s death before he starts making incredible information public. If in fact his ex-girlfriend had an abortion then he has an argument, but for now he looks pretty bad by making assumptions.

    • Posted June 7, 2011 at 5:37 pm | Permalink

      I agree. I can’t imagine how I would feel if someone accused me of having an abortion!

  2. Posted June 7, 2011 at 10:59 am | Permalink

    After watching the news video, I’m not sure that I would support it. Mainly because he is accusing his girlfriend of having an abortion, when he doesn’t actually know how the baby died. I agree with his goal, but I don’t like his execution. I think he should have had more facts before proceeding.

  3. Catholic Psychdoc
    Posted June 7, 2011 at 10:59 am | Permalink

    The question seems to have been raised that the ex-girlfriend did not have an abortion but miscarried. In that case, this might just be the act of a jilted boyfriend trying to embarrass his ex and would be libelous. I could not approve of it then. If however it was true that his girlfriend aborted his child, then go for it!

    • Nanirou
      Posted June 7, 2011 at 11:33 am | Permalink

      I agree. This sign seems to be causing more harm. The Prolife message is about healing and saving lives not causing more hurt and pain.

  4. Posted June 7, 2011 at 11:00 am | Permalink

    I LOVE IT. I don’t think it matters ONE BIT about the ex-gf. I think if it was even done having no connection with him at all- just as a pro-life ad in and of itself, it is STELLAR Genius. All ads with people have to use SOMEONE as a model. Why not him?

    It’s about TIME we had some fathers standing up for their children.

  5. Posted June 7, 2011 at 11:02 am | Permalink

    I want to make it clear that I’m saying…the ad should be up even if the man never even had a child, or had a girlfriend. i think it’s just a great ad in general. if he had put her NAME up there or something, now that’s another story. but as an ad for pro-life, i think it’s great.

  6. Nanirou
    Posted June 7, 2011 at 11:28 am | Permalink

    A simple sign with a message…Men regret Abortion would be more powerful and meaningful to spread the Life message. No one (the mother who is already wounded) would be harmed.

  7. Jocelyn
    Posted June 7, 2011 at 11:32 am | Permalink

    If she honestly did suffer a miscarriage, this is pretty terrible. I suppose there’s no way to know for sure. I also don’t know that a billboard with a picture of her ex would cause her to fall to repentance if she did have an abortion. And shouldn’t the goal be to prevent abortions from taking place when we can, and when they do, help women come to repentance and healing? I do, however, think this is an EXCELLENT billboard idea, tweaked slightly and had it not connected to actual people.

  8. Jocelyn
    Posted June 7, 2011 at 11:33 am | Permalink

    Danielle, I believe I read somewhere that her name IS on the billboard in some manner.

  9. Posted June 7, 2011 at 11:40 am | Permalink

    @Jocelyn if it is, then i think, like i said, that it would be completely inappropriate for that to be on there. otherwise- great ad.

  10. Sarah
    Posted June 7, 2011 at 11:50 am | Permalink

    I agree with Danielle that it could have been an amazing pro life ad if he didn’t have personal connections or her name on it. But honestly, if she did miscarry, then he’s an idiot. I’m sorry, but that would just be rude to exploit her pain (and his own). Let’s see if the truth comes out.

  11. JP Prichard
    Posted June 7, 2011 at 12:25 pm | Permalink

    The message is supportable. HOWEVER…

    The execution on this is extremely poor, even to the point of being detrimental to the cause. As stated previously, there is too much ambiguity in this guys circumstances.

    Assuming he’s legit (see what I mean? From the onset it’s questionable…), there are many things he could have done better. He could have hired a model to be him, he could have hired a graphic artist that knows how to make good billboards, etc.

    The billboard does more harm than good, even though the message is correct. Some folks will say, “Doing SOMETHING is better than doing nothing”. I say, “If you are going to take the time to start a battle by firing a shot at your enemy, do it from a position of strength, and try aiming a little better. Otherwise, all you are doing is setting yourself up for defeat.” Wage war to win, not to just wage war.

  12. Christina
    Posted June 7, 2011 at 12:58 pm | Permalink

    I’m torn on this one. I don’t believe he broke any laws, he didn’t use her name on it or put a picture of her on it. He has a right to say what he wants. I think that there is a better way to get the pro-life message out than this. It makes it hard to believe this was about getting out a good message, it seems like it’s mostly about getting back at her for what he thinks she did.

  13. Jerimiah
    Posted June 7, 2011 at 1:33 pm | Permalink

    If the girlfriend truly had an abortion, I like this sign. If it shows the guy, and references his ex-girlfriend without giving her name, then is it really defamation anyhow? Sounds to me more like free speech, and a man displaying to the world that MEN are ALSO victims of abortion, not just the baby and the mother.

    And, whether she consciously knows it or not, if she did have an abortion she did indeed commit murder. She killed an innocent child.

    If she indeed had a miscarriage, then of course the whole thing is without merit simply because the guy was misinformed (or jumped to conclusions). All of this hinges on whether she actually had an abortion. Keeping in mind of course, now that their whole community knows what happened, of course her friends would say she miscarried. It helps her save face now that the word is out.

    I wonder if it would be possible to have a medical exam performed to determine the truth? Though I’d suspect the woman wouldn’t willingly go through such an exam anyhow.

    Ultimately however, the civil suit will entirely come down to whether or not this man BELIEVED she had an abortion, and whether the courts deem this to be Free Speech.

    • jocelynfry81
      Posted June 7, 2011 at 3:14 pm | Permalink

      “I wonder if it would be possible to have a medical exam performed to determine the truth? Though I’d suspect the woman wouldn’t willingly go through such an exam anyhow.”

      There would be no way to know the difference, especially since it’s apparently some 10 months to a year after the incident. And If there were, it’s not a road we want to go down. Now, if she had a miscarriage and was cared for afterwards (as she should have been) by her doctor or a hospital, she would then have proof and could show it if she wished. But since, unfortunately not only is abortion legal, but men have legal rights to their unborn children, she hasn’t been accused of any crime. She would have no obligation to hand over her private medical records. And do we really want that? Say we overturn Roe and states start outlawing abortion. We do not want women who have had miscarriages to be treated like criminals and forced to prove themselves. That would be horrific.

      • jocelynfry81
        Posted June 7, 2011 at 3:17 pm | Permalink

        Ultimately however, the civil suit will entirely come down to whether or not this man BELIEVED she had an abortion, and whether the courts deem this to be Free Speech.

        ^this

        And when he says things now along the lines of, “I don’t know how the baby died.” That sounds to me as though he was never that sure. And that’ll cost him.

  14. Posted June 7, 2011 at 1:47 pm | Permalink

    Anything that will bring attention to the horrific act of killing children through abortion is good for the cause of life. Father’s should have a voice in what happens to their children. I applaud his efforts, and,too, if it is such a good thing ,as his girlfriend ,along with Planned Parenthood thinks,why care about the exposure?

  15. Shannon Norvell
    Posted June 7, 2011 at 6:02 pm | Permalink

    I agree. If it’s too shameful to go public with, why do it? Good for him.

  16. Jadie
    Posted June 7, 2011 at 11:34 pm | Permalink

    According to locals who actually know more about the case – the article – at least the one being run in most papers – by the Associated Press – isn’t giving all of the facts of the case. The local media in the state have reported that the guy didn’t even know for sure if she had an abortion. She has stated flatly that it was a miscarriage, everybody who knows her has said it was a miscarriage.

    But most importantly – besides not knowing this – the AP didn’t bother to report that this young woman was apparently only 18 or 19 while they were dating. The guy is in his early 30’s. She had to take out a restraining order against him because he has spent the entire last year and a half harassing her and stalking her. He created some type of web site / sites in her name. In them he was mocking a physical disability she had, encouraging other people to harass her, and the local media also reported that this young woman isn’t the first to be treated like this. That this jerk has had complaints lodged against him by previous girlfriends.

    And for anybody who is giving some knee jerk response proclaiming – Oooh, good for him – they ought to think long and hard about that because – nobody is perfect. This guy is really going to look like a scum bag if she didn’t have an abortion. And if the courts try and so – oh, hey, freedom of speech – then every single guy or woman out there who has ever cheated on their partner, who has been fired from a job, who is considered a bad parent by their significant other, who has ever been busted soliciting sex in a public restroom, etc –

    I’m sure every single person who has left message heres, including Bryan Kemper himself – has at least one filthy little secret, some skeleton in their closet. You give this jerk a free pass – and it will open floodgates because, every time somebody does something to infuriate their significant other, a co-worker, and so forth – what’s stopping the self proclaimed “wounded party” from going out – renting a billboard – and airing their dirty laundry for the entire world to see.

    If a couple is going through a nasty divorce because the guy was cheating – I don’t think hubby would enjoy driving to work one day and spotting a gigantic billboard with his face on it proclaiming – This man is a cheating scumbag who can’t keep his pants zipped. Or – if a couple is getting a divorce and the guy is feeling aggrieved – I can’t imagine wifey would enjoy heading out to drop the kids off at school one morning on her way to work and spying a huge billboard with a picture of her or her hubby on it with the words – I’m divorcing this woman because she’s a manipulative, frigid shrew. Date at your own risk.

    And lastly – if she did have an abortion – birth control isn’t, and should not be, solely the woman’s responsibility. I’m not even going to address the whole – well if they weren’t married, they shouldn’t have been having sex anyway and then this wouldn’t have happened – because I actually live in Reality, and in the Real World – the vast majority of the population doesn’t wait until they’re married to have sex.

    If this guy was so concerned about possible pregnancies, if he was really so concerned about the sanctity of life – since he was so much older than her – he should have brought that issue up and made his feelings known before they started having sex. And – if he was really concerned about the whole abortion issue – maybe the jerk should have used condoms too. Both people in the relationship should be equally mature and responsible – but a 30+ year old guy should certainly behave more responsibly than a 19 yr old girl.

    The fact that he apparently wasn’t using condoms, didn’t bring the issue up, reveals that this guy is extremely selfish and immature. And I wouldn’t be the least bit surprised if he wasn’t lying through his teeth. He probably put that sign up just to humiliate her for dumping his sorry tail. Everybody in this country, who isn’t a complete fool, knows what a wedge issue abortion is.

    Even if it was a lie, this jerk knew that, just because he hurled the accusation at her in such a public way – it would be splashed across papers from one end of the country to the other. All of the anti abortion people would read it – and they would pile on this girl without even making any attempt to find out if he was telling the truth or not. For your sakes – you’d better hope that God doesn’t decide to judge you as quickly and as harshly as you have judged this girl.

  17. Lewis Waters
    Posted June 8, 2011 at 8:39 pm | Permalink

    there is no love in this man’s actions. it seems to be purely vindictive, and while the death of the unborn is tragic, his actions have severed all ties to and with this woman. how then, can she ever hear the word “pro-life” without feelings of intensified shame being conjured. not just remorse for deeds done, but deep seeded “i’m completely unworthy of love” shame. this happened in a small town, this is far from anonymous in this community. i hope for healing all around…for this man’s anger, this woman’s heart, and for the spirit of the greater community of faith to meet these folks where they are.

  18. Jill
    Posted June 9, 2011 at 12:06 am | Permalink

    He is obviously in a lot of pain. I am torn on his billboard. My first thoughts were, he is acting out of anger and pain, and is vengeful. I think that if his only intentions were to raise awareness to the fact that abortion also victimizes fathers of the aborted, he would not have used his own photo and he would have worded it differently. I think he has a good idea, but the wrong execution. The message is very selfish, and seems to me, to be directed towards his ex-girlfriend to publicly shame her. I do think this specific billboard could do more damage than good. I DO think that a billboard is a great idea to bring awareness to abortion, and we need more of them! However, we need to be smart about it and not let the devil taint the message. This woman is mostly likely hurting too, whether she aborted or miscarried…this will not bring her healing or salvation.

  19. Rob Roy
    Posted June 9, 2011 at 4:47 am | Permalink

    It is all a big scam!
    Per Planned Parenthood statistics, 95% of ALL abortions are done solely for birth control. Their statistics also show 1 in 3 women will have an abortion before she is 40. Men are held accountable at the whim of the woman for not using protection when he doesn’t want a child and the woman does, but women are allowed to kill as a means of birth control whether the man wants the child or not.
    This means abortion makes killers of women who want sex without the consequences. Plain and simple.
    I have known many, many women who were forever traumatized by their murders. We have therapy for soldiers and others with PSTD but let these traumatized killer women run rampant through our society. Too funny!
    Again, 95% of ALL abortions are solely for birth control. That makes them a choice by the woman to prevent having a child. Men carry a condom and women carry the phone number to their local baby slaughterhouse. Too funny!
    Oh, don’t forget, there are over 300,00 abortions per year. Do the math to figure out how many were murders.
    Pro Life, Pro Choice, murder is murder except when done by a woman who doesn’t want a baby right then. Too funny!
    Peace

  20. mary
    Posted June 12, 2011 at 2:46 pm | Permalink

    The father is in sin for having pre-marital sex with his girlfriend. He has no place to publicize her sings when his is just as great. These are the kind of people that give pro-lifers a bad name. We preach a message of forgiveness, he should be mourning the loss of his child and he should be praying for his ex-girlfriend. The money he spent on the billboard would have been better spent at a place that helps poor or unwed mothers.

  21. Nicole
    Posted June 18, 2011 at 6:27 pm | Permalink

    In our zeal to save lives, we must be so careful not to sin. The pro-life message is powerful because it is Truth. However, this man’s message smacks of deception. The truth is on our side; we must never ever settle for lies. Before rushing to judgment, always always examine the facts. When told his ex had a miscarriage, the man casually admits he has no idea how the baby died. He is NOT someone the pro-life movement should become entangled with.

    Suzanne Wilson said: “Anything that will bring attention to the horrific act of killing children through abortion is good for the cause of life. ”

    I strongly disagree. We are never called to fight evil with evil. If we are willing to do ANYTHING for the cause of life, we will quickly be condoning acts just as deplorable as abortion. To believe the ends justify the means is so dangerous. No cause, even the cause of saving lives, gives us the right to cast aside our own moral obligations.

    IF the man placing the billboard appeared honest and above reproach (which he does not), his tactic would be justified but detrimental. Personal attacks are not a method that will change hearts and minds for the better.

    We are called to speak the TRUTH in LOVE.

  22. Rachael Luv Yellow Owl
    Posted July 6, 2011 at 10:00 am | Permalink

    I think this is Awesome! So many men say nothing when females do this to their babies?! It seems like they don’t want to stand up and use their voice. But men remember it’s 50% her and 50% you!

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